Quiet as it may be kept, when you enter a committed relationship with another human being it is no longer all about you. This is why it is very important to know the person you are establishing a union with; and they should know you. And as you grow and evolve individually and collectively you should continue sharing and communicating with each other. Be honest and true to yourself first.
Don’t settle for a relationship with someone just because you don’t want to be alone. You may find yourself more miserable and lonely. Secretly you will be angry with yourself because you manipulated a relationship for self gain. What did you gain?
Being with the person who fits with you; who has an understanding of who you are and who has desires for your dreams and aspirations to come to pass is wonderful. But to be with a person who knows those things and have a desire to use that knowledge to allow joy to flow generously into your life, because your joy brings your mate pleasure is extremely valuable.
What I have seen in other relationships and even my own past relationship is if you don’t make me happy then you surely will not be happy. What kind of person finds pleasure in this selfishness? What harvest are you expecting from planting such a bitter seed? Don’t fool yourself, a healthy fruitful relationship takes planting good seeds, cultivating with love and patience, and then you will harvest a sweet crop.
Love is challenged but never threaten.
As you enjoy the lovely fruit from your harvest remember it took work to choose to plant good seed; it took work to water and cultivate the land; and it took work to harvest your beautiful crop. When you picked your seeds you were seeing in your mind the beautiful fruit it will grow into. In the beginning you don’t see the decisions, time, and work it will take to get the end product.
YOU MUST DO THE WORK!
DO IT FOR LOVE.
DON’T LEAVE LOVE TO CHANCE.